Communication is a very a powerful tool which can be use to express what is inside us. Open-communication between parents and children is very significant. It helps the children to be open with their feelings towards their parents and the things which surround them. It also builds up trust, security, and a healthy and strong relationship among family members. Good future of the children lies in the hands of the parents which can be achieving through good communication.
A good foundation of communication or no communication at all among parents and children may affect children’s academic achievement, attitude, attendance and continued education. An article, Secretary for Financial Services and the Treasury, March 31, 2006, stated that “communication is as essential as breathing. Communication takes place at various levels: between parents and children, between husbands and wives, between bosses and staff, between friends and between Government, the public and Legislators” (See “Importance of Communication.
” Secretary for financial services and the treasury. March 31, 2006). Another article published in ED HOME, February 15, 1994, discussed the “day-to-day reality of the American family today which is much different from previous generation. Parents and children spent far less time together and almost all parents face an on-going struggle to balance the demands of their family life with their jobs. At a time when parents are under tremendous pressures that make them less able to participate in their children’s lives, there is greater need for them to involved, particularly in education.
Schools must response to the needs of parents and provide the supports necessary for them to be involved in their children’s learning, At the same time, parents need to slow down their lives, stress the life-long importance of getting a good-education and serve as role models for their children” (See “Connecting Families and Schools To 1 Help Our Children Succeed”, archived information. February 15, 1994). *Importance of good communication and its effects*
A report made by Richard Garner stated that “all-day television, the demise of the family meal and even the forward-facing design of pushchairs are conspiring to kill the art of conversation between parents and children. The results have “alarming implications” for pupil behavior in the first few years of primary school. Children resort to tantrums because they arrive at school aged four unable to express themselves. Infant teachers are especially alarmed by the levels of language of each new intake and the difficulties children have in settling down in class.
The BSA is urging schools to meet parents to explain to them the importance of conversing with their children. Family members are also spending less time together in the same room” (See R. Garner, “How art of conversation between children has died”. April 3, 2006). In an article entitled “Keeping Kids Drug-Free: What parents Can do” published and edited by Mark Ehrlich advocated what parents can do to avoid drugs. He stated that one of these strategies is by means of communicating the children.
He said that “communication of feelings is particularly important. He quotes the write ups of David Wilmes which explains that “expression of feelings is critical for healthy development. We need to express to build relationship with others, creates a sense of intimacy and togetherness and find the support and encouragement that other people provide especially our parents. Children who can’t express feelings are not as likely to receive support from others, and more likely to turn to drugs or alcohol to try to change their feelings.
He suggested that in order to help kids learn to express feelings appropriately, parents can: (1) model appropriate expression of feelings by giving “I” statements such as “I feel sad” or “I feel happy”. Simply give the statement with “I’, then name a feeling and give a brief 2 explanation; (2) help kids recognize their own feelings by commenting on how the child seems to be feeling; (3) encourage kids to describe feelings they have in different situations; (4) expose kids to a wide vocabulary of feeling words; (5) simply be good listeners and; (6) support kids when they do express their feelings (See M.
Ehrlich, “Keeping Kids Drug-Free: What Parents Can Do”. Jan. 31, 2004). *Opinion and recommendation* Spending time in talking with our children is very significant in their growing years. It develops their sense of security knowing that they have parents who have love them and care for them by listening to their hearts’ cry. Parents should allot time for their children in spite of the hectic schedules because through that, they are teaching their children to boast positive attitudes toward things.
1. “Connecting Families and Schools to Help Our Children Succeed”, archived information. February 15, 1994. Http://www. ed. gov/PressReleases/02-1994/parent. html 2. “Importance of Communication. ” Secretary for financial services and the treasury. March 31, 2006. Http://www. fstb. gov. hk/eng/sfst/fstb31. html